I don’t know how many of us here have suffered one form of loss or the other, (Depression) or perhaps you know someone who has… To those of us who are grieving or have lost a loved one, a job, your health… Or you know someone who has…
I have something I believe will help you find your way to healing from Depression. Most of the points here are from Joyce Meyer’s book living beyond your feelings but the explanations are my understanding of these points. So how do you heal? How do you recover from that loss? How do you get back to something resembling normalcy?
1) Just keep breathing
In the aftermath of a major loss, it’s not uncommon for people to go in shock. So many people become immobilized and put their life on hold for too long until they eventually sink into despair. It will be hard, but you must try to keep putting one foot in front of the other, no matter how slowly. You need to keep moving so you don’t sink into despair. Stop holding your breath and just keep breathing…………Depression
2) Don’t make any sudden or massive changes for a while
Change generally, isn’t easy. The bigger the change, the more upheaval it causes. Change can be quite daunting even for those who are and emotionally stable. Now imagine how disorienting making massive changes will be for someone who is grieving and as such, is emotionally off-kilter. Find comfort and stability in familiarity………….Depression
That’s right. Let those tears drop. Science has proven that tears shed for emotional reasons are different from those sheds due to irritants like peeling onions. Emotional tears help dissipate chemicals that accumulation in the body during stressful periods. So please, allow yourself time to be human and just cry. Crying brings immeasurable physical and emotional relief. Crying is a way to release all the pent-up emotions, feelings and stress that has built up during your grief. You know those people who tell you that crying doesn’t solve anything, they don’t know what they are saying. If you’ve ever been hurt before, then you know that crying is a big an-aesthetic…………Depression
4) Find someone to talk to
Don’t try to go through your grief alone. “My problem is mine and mine alone” is what makes people commit suicide. Find supportive, mature and understanding friends you can unburden your heart to. Find people who can listen. Talking about how you feel is another major form of release for all those pent-up emotions. Talk with those who have gone through a similar loss. They’ll share their wisdom with you, they’ll hold your hand and assure you that you’ll be okay. They’ll give you the strength to forge ahead. Keeping everything to yourself is rarely the best idea…
Remember, a problem shared (with the right people, I might add) is half solved. Cut yourself some slack during your grief and don’t try to pretend you’re not hurting and that you don’t need time. Even time needs time to heal wounds………….Depression
6) Write about your grief
Writing is another way to get things off your chest. During your grief get a journal and put down how you feel each day. Your journal is private property, so it is one place where you don’t have to worry about censoring your words or worry about the reactions to your words. Just write down how you feel, as raw and bare and true as you feel. It’ll help you find release and deal with your grief. Your journal will also serve as a chronicle of your journey from loss to healing. As you read through, you’ll get an objective view of the progress you are making. Maybe as of 3 months ago, it took you 4 hours to finally fall asleep. But now, you can doze off in under an hour. That is progress. That is healing. You probably used to feel like ending your life a month ago, but now you are feeling less suicidal and you are realizing that they are still things to live for. That is healing.
Seeing the progress you are making written down in black and white will help you realize that you are indeed moving ahead. Write about it. Keep a journal. Plus, keeping a diary can be a fun experience, which will undoubtedly help you during your grief………….Depression
If someone was responsible for your loss, you’ll never truly heal until you forgive him or her. If your own carelessness caused that loss, you’ll also not heal until you forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the first step to healing. Let it go so that you can heal. God can’t help you if you insist on holding on to that hurt. Remember, all the bitter feelings, anger, and recriminations we harbor when someone has hurt us just doubles our troubles… And they don’t hurt the offender in any way.
Forgive. Don’t be your own jailer. Don’t lock yourself up in prison for something someone else did………….Depression
8) Remind yourself that you won’t always feel this way
This is one of the best things you’ll ever do for yourself. Keep reminding yourself that it will eventually get better. Keep telling yourself that your grief will pass. The truth is that it will… Time heals all wounds eventually.
When you condition your mind this way, you make it that much easier to find your way out of that cesspool of grief. Tell yourself that _this too shall pass._
Like we always say, no condition is permanent. Not even your grief is, no matter how heavy it may seem now. It won’t always be this way. Remember that………….Depression
9) Remember that there are still things to be thankful for
Every cloud does have a silver lining, even if you can’t see it because of the fog of grief covering your face. The best way to dispel negativity is with positivity. In your grief, one thing that keeps you from spiraling into despair and despondency is to remember that however unfair you think life has been, there are still things you have that are Blessings.
So you lose your husband, I cannot even begin to imagine how painful that must be. You can, however, be grateful that you got to spend those wonderful years with him. You can appreciate God for the wonderful children you and your late husband had …………Depression
In everything give thanks. Why? Because there is always something to be thankful for.
Remembering the good things will help you cope with the bad ones.
10) Mind your health
It’s easy to fall into dangerous habits during grief. You stop eating well or even eating at all. You begin to keep late nights or you don’t even sleep at all. Some resort to substance abuse, while some begin to ignore personal hygiene like bathing, brushing, grooming, etc.
I know it will be hard but you must take care of your health. If you fall sick as you are grieving, you are just compounding your problems
11) Rely on God’s comfort
Psalms 34:17-18 assures us that God is always close to those who are hurting and broken-hearted. He is willing to bring you comfort.
He said come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest… He has promised to give you rest and to heal you, but you must come… You must rest on His unchanging grace, his unfailing love, and his tender mercies.
Run into his arms and like a loving father, he will comfort you. That is one of the reasons the Holy Spirit is called
“the comforter”. He comforts